Don't give yourself....

....a hard time. Don't assume that you have something to apologise for. Even if you do have a skeleton in your closet, you are not alone. There are more than seven billion people on this earth. That's seven billion closets. Not one of them is empty. (But I fancy we all know people who would swear black is white that they have no skeletons.)  Don't race for the moral high ground. The very act of reaching for that puts you on lower ground! Do, though, be proud, clear and conscious.

We all have a right to ask for what we want, and a right to expect our wish will be granted.




None of us has got it together, but together we've got it.   (J John)

Rather than judge.....

Growth is....

Virtually all of us believe....

....that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.  It isn't.  It can't be, because it entirely depends on which side of the fence you happen to be sitting on! We all have a terrible tendency to believe what we want to believe. We don't so much kid ourselves as con ourselves. We stare into the mirror until, by some process of wishful thinking, we have distorted the reflection.

We embellish our identities - and when the cold light of reason threatens to burst the bubble, we rapidly look the other way.

Before you assume, learn. Before you judge, understand. Before you hurt, feel. Before you say, think.

It may often seem as if....

....life is full of things that you can't do. Either you aren't allowed to or you can't afford to or you will upset someone enormously if you do. Or maybe, there is another reason. What if deep down within, the truth is that something within you really doesn't want to. It is almost as if you are hunting for reasons to pin the blame elsewhere for this reluctance. If that's the case, you really need to think about whether you are wasting your own time.

The more honest you are with yourself, the more progress you will make.

Nothing dies more quickly than a new idea in a closed mind.

With very good reason......

When I was a small boy....

....I was given a cowboy outfit, and didn't want to take it off. What about you?  Can you remember a particular item of clothing that filled you with satisfaction when you first acquired it, and then every time you wore it since? Where is it now? How would you feel if you were to come across it again? Actually, no matter how nostalgic the rediscovery might make you, it would also cause great frustration. You have surely long-since outgrown it.

In a similar way, we all outgrow various attitudes and opinions as life makes us wiser. Don't apply yesterday's standards to today's decisions.

Always appreciate what you have before it's gone.