There are the stories....

....we tell ourselves, the versions of those stories that we tell others and the interpretations that those people then place on the stories that they have been told. Where, in all those different narratives and explanations, should we look if we want to find the truth? 

It is important to remember that no statement is ever definitive, no rule is without its exceptions and no assessment of any situation is entirely free of subjectivity.

Very few of us are what we seem.   (Agatha Christie)