Once upon a time....

.....a very long time ago there was a man who went by the name of Khalil Gibran.  A poet, apparently.  One of the remarks he's said to have made is - Wisdom ceases to be wisdom when it becomes too proud to weep, too grave to laugh, and too selfish to seek other than itself.

And people who do seek wisdom soon discover that wisdom cannot be sought. Unlike information - which you can most definitely go out hunting or fishing for - wisdom is nobody's prey and nobody's quarry. If you wish to encounter wisdom - you must stand still and allow wisdom to catch you.

Ultimately the happiest unions have less to do with perfect partners

and more to do with our inner self-worth.